Speak up and stop upsetting yourself

Do we worry too much about what other people think?  The story yesterday about the  Anzac Day centenary and how it might cause tension in a multicultural Australia and offend minorities made me think about how far we go not to offend people.

Individuals do this all the time.  Acting and speaking in a certain way not to upset, and in doing so, actually upset themselves.

Now I’m not talking about being mean and offensive for the sake of having an opinion (not mentioning Jason Akermanis), but about the times that people hold back from expressing their thoughts and feelings when they really should.

I’m talking about ‘tough love’.  The times you need to be unpopular to help people see that their own ways, their own habits are not necessarily the best way to be – either for others or for themselves.

Sometimes the people you love most – your children, your partner/spouse, your family – could get upset if you said what you were really thinking.  But have you held back?  How has that made you feel?  Aren’t you really being dishonest – not letting them know the ‘real’ you.

Relationships and communication are enhanced when we stand in our power and speak from our heart.

If people are offended, then that’s their problem to deal with.  Perhaps it’s time that someone told them how things are, so that they can learn and grow.

Yes, it can hurt when someone tells you what they really are thinking or when you realise that someone doesn’t like you for what you did.  Rather than defending oneself, it might be a good time to truly listen and learn.  Ask yourself, what can I take from this.  What is valid about the other person’s opinion?… and remember it is still only their opinion, and often we might need to agree to disagree.

Perhaps it’s time for Australia to stand up for what it believes in, and allow everyone to adapt to that, rather than the other way around.