The thing that stops us from getting out and speaking are the same things that stop us from doing anything.
OUR HABITUAL REACTIONS!
Unless we are conscious of the present moment, and taking charge of how we intend to be, or feel then…. we are usually responding by habit. These habits are like taking the same road everday and not realising there are alternate destinations OR playing the same record over and over again.
It might feel safe, but is it getting you what you really want?
The other day I was working with a client and she was worried that work was drying up. She was used to being over-busy and even though we had been working towards such a time, to have freedom with her use of time, her pattern was to want to fill it up with busy-ness.
It was time to learn a new habit or pattern. One that wasn’t based on fear, instead one that was based on what she did want.
People avoid new situations such as speaking on a stage because of these habitual reactions. They might not even recognize the fear- because it’s an old fear.
Do you remember having to get up to speak at school, at church, or even at a family gathering the first time? Did you love it or hate it? Did you freeze? Did you not know what to say?
Unless you have had some training/coaching or replaced the experience with better ones, you could still be playing the same record – the same reaction.
This same Pavlov* reaction can occur in movements of stress, conflict, receiving negative feedback, dealing with heights or spiders.
The good news is that being aware of the problem is the first big step to change. Yes, you can change these negative unwanted responses. You can change the record to play a new tune – one that suits the life and business you want to have.
If you want to speak with confidence and ease, it is possible.
I will be showing more of how in an upcoming video series. For now, join my community for free and get my checklist and tips to help you speak to a live audience.
* Ivan Pavlov discovered that dogs could be trained to salivate at the sound of a tuning fork.