This article is going to sound like it’s a lot about me (not ideal for writing or speaking), and please hear me out, there is a reason…and by the end you will find that there is something here for you too to learn for yourself.
Yesterday was a big day in Maui with the first ever TEDxYouth event on the island and it was held at Seabury Hall, a local private school. End of 2013 I was asked to be a mentor to the speakers, to help them prepare for their performances.
I was also involved in the audition/selection process and this was followed up by a 1 day workshop for all the chosen speakers. I then did some personal coaching of each speaker to help him or her craft and deliver their message.
Yesterday I reveled in seeing the result of our work together with each speaker really shining with their opportunity to share their message.
And then last night it came to me!
I had made a difference…..not only to these speakers, but I had also played a part in:
- Saving the Orangutans,
- Stopping bullying & discrimination,
- Embracing history as a subject to be passionate about,
- Helping people tap into their own inner hero,
- Encouraging us to accept our imperfections,
- Suggesting we take up creative expressions to grow,
- Stopping statistics defining us and our future,
- Embracing originality and individuality,
- Increasing knowledge of super-conductors; and
- Telling the world about Hokule’a and alternative curriculum for students.
Wow. I had a hand in that.
Now, one of the reason’s I’m sharing this with you, is because during the day we also listened to several recorded TED talks, one being by Sheryl Sandberg, CEO of Facebook, talking about “Why we have too few women leaders.” One thing stood out to me and that was how women do not take credit for their successes. Men will do this easily, and yet women will put forth other explanations for their success, even chance.
Big aha moment. I had been doing that all morning up to that point. People had been congratulating me for the work I had done with the students, and I was quick to deflect it to the work of the students. They really had done an amazing job, plus you know what they say…you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
After listening to Sheryl, I changed my response to the comments on how well the speakers were doing – I simply said thank you and accepted it graciously, and inside gave myself a big high-five.
So perhaps there is something here for you too, either about claiming credit for your success, or making note of the difference you DO make.
My purpose for helping speakers prepare for their performance is to help them get their message out to more people effectively, so that they in turn can inspire others.
I love the ripple effect of helping people get their message out, and I want you to realize that you also create a ripple effect by what you do. You never know how your message will impact others to make changes that impact the world.
As one speaker, Quinn Shiriashi, said quoting Helen Keller –
“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.”